Beyonce, Sex, and the Grammys
But here’s the real question: why do I know this? Why do I need to know that Beyoncé likes sex? Why do I need to know Beyoncé likes having sex with her husband? Why do I need to know what kind of sex they like to have?
This is not my business. Or more accurately, this is none of my business. This IS the private business of Beyoncé and her husband, and what they do, what they like, and how they like it, is and should be a matter between the two of them.
Somewhere along the way, we became a nation interested in who’s sleeping with whom and the ways in which they are “sleeping” with each other. Sex has become a spectator sport where the players tell us the plays in advance of, during, and after the game.
What ever happened to subtlety? What happened to mystery? What happened to holding some things back? What happened to leaving something to the imagination? I, for one, did not need to see Beyoncé’s entire might-as-well-be-naked bottom on national, make that international, television. And neither did anybody else. And I do not understand why her husband, on stage with her — fully clothed I might add — is comfortable with her showing off her assets to the world, and as one writer put it, “[shaking] her rear end for other men’s titillation.” See also: The 36 Absolute Sexiest Moments from Beyoncé and Jay Z’s Grammy Performance — the writer’s commentary makes my point.
Yes, Beyoncé is a grown woman and can do whatever she wants. And yes, she’s an entertainer and a businesswoman, and has an obvious interest in sharing her talent, preserving her brand, and making a buck. But I’m reminded of the admonition of the Apostle Paul: “All things are lawful, yet not expedient” which in regular English means just cause you CAN do a thing, doesn’t mean you SHOULD do a thing. Some things are simply better left undone.
Sex is intended to be gratifying, fortifying, inspiring, invigorating and fun even. But let’s not lose sight of the fact that it is also the physical joining of two people in a union that is, at once, mysterious, spiritual, and sacred. That makes it special. And these days, special things are far too rare.
l am so very happy that Beyoncé and her husband enjoy themselves with each other. But I’d rather read it on their faces than see it on the Grammys.